So since my last update the guy that I launched myself upon at the weekend actually asked me out. So I said yes. Now we have ALL THE THOUGHTS.
- You are too ugly/fat/emotional to deserve a relationship
- He’s going to go on a few dates with you and then work out how awful you are
- He is a liar and just wants to use you
I have my own issues around this… especially relating to a lot of bullying I had when I was a teenager which was basically sexual harassment. There’s also the fact that my ex did totally just use me for what I had in the end and lied to me for a couple of years… it’s not without precedent.
There’s also the thing of he has mental health issues as well and I’ve generally been horribly bias about this when looking at people’s profiles which I know is awful. I just had the feeling that my stuff was probably bad enough and my tendency to mother people to death wouldn’t help if someone had their own problems.
That said, I got taught that everyone has mental health problems. It’s a reason that I hide from anyone who says they’re a ‘normal guy’ looking for a ‘normal’ girl O_O Yeah… I think Bill Bailey said that when he asks who the ‘weirdos’ are in a crowd the people that respond positively are generally the most normal people going
So I’m trying to not think all the things and instead pretend that I have not had these horrible experiences and to see how it goes. Chatting online is fun… but I can’t take the compliments. It’s like my body doesn’t know how to react and the little goblin in my brain is looking at lots of controls going ‘HOW DO WE RESPOND TO THIS?!?’ Thankfully because it’s online I’m not sat in front of said person slackjawed.
Trying to be back on board with the diet… but I’m having to take things one day at a time -_-
Work… isn’t great. Today I had a two hour appointment with the advisor who referred them basically sat watching me like a hawk. Even though I had a lie in I ended up having to sleep for three hours because I couldn’t keep my eyes open. This isn’t normal ¬_¬ I keep thinking for a moment that it’s my iron or there’s something wrong with me but I guess 80 blood tests can’t be wrong.
Applying for other jobs but I admit I’m probably just doing the scattergun approach rather than the bespoke, handcrafted arse kissery that employers seem to want nowadays. Gods forbid anything should be wrong with my application to their advert that has been reposted 18 times and has spelling mistakes in it!
How can I still feel so damn tired after having a 3 hour sleep?!
There are also 2 guys that I’m speaking to online thanks to the dating site that I’m too cheap to delete my profile from. One has suggested going somewhere but only taking one car because of parking… so now I’m trying to work out how to say ‘sorry but I need to take my own transport in case you murder me and bury me in a field’ in a way that doesn’t sound like that…
Oh and I had my first abuse message thanks to a dating site as well! So achievement unlocked there. Thanks for confirming the gut feeling that told me not to go for a drink with you!